Constipated ! ! !

>> Monday, February 16, 2009

No They didn't give me a pain pump. They gave me a nerve block. That was scary. it felt like my arm wasn't even there at all. It finally started coming back to life again on Saturday. So i have a new problem now. I am constipated. Haven't had a bowel movement since before my surgery early Thursday morning. Woooooooo Hoooooooo. I threw up yesterday and this medicine makes me feel weird all day long. I just want to wake up and take a normal shower and go to work and have a normal day. I'M BORED!

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Sugery

>> Friday, February 13, 2009

I'm home now. I had my shoulder surgery and everything went well. Can't really type yet =(

I may not really post much, but I'll try to read and comment every so often.

Thanks for all the support!

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Girls Night............. in!

>> Friday, February 6, 2009

Tonight is GIRLS NIGHT IN! No cuteness allowed. Must wear Pj's or sweats. Must eat junk. Must watch at least 2 chic-flicks. Must have FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I want to hear about the craziest things you and your girlfriends do? This may inspire a blog or two about me and my friends and our ridiculously outrageous and totally immature girl's nights. I'll try to keep it G rated! (I mean we are all Christians...) We are always looking for new and exciting stuff to do to celebrate our girlhood, wifeiness and mom lives. Ideas, ideas, ideas.... we need some original ideas to really make our get-togethers memorable!

I need to hear some inspirational stories.... please!?

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Funny Story

>> Thursday, February 5, 2009

Ok today’s dare was kind of hard, especially after the breakfast bust yesterday.

Ask your spouse to tell you 3 things that cause him to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.

These were the 3 things he said: “I get irritated when u ___________

1. lose things
2. are louder than necessary
3. don’t take care of things that need to be taken care of asap.


I am so tempted right now to justify myself… but I’m not going to. I’m simply going to admit that I do all these things. I is who I am, but I am going to do my best to overcome these bad little habbits when it is concerning my husband.

I am a VERY loud person, its just natural: Funny story…. Are you ready???
Ok here it goes:


Today while I was out to lunch with 2 of my very good friends… the sex conversation came up in the middle of a crowded Culver’s Restaurant. So here we are eating our burgers and
Bebe says:
“So, Becca when are you and Eddy going to start ‘trying’ for the babies?”
Becca admitted she’s ready, but Eddy wants to wait until July when Becca turns 26. So nosey Bebe says:
“Well what are you doing to stop it, are you on the pill?”
Becca:
“No I have been off of it for a year.”
Bebe:
“Condoms suck.”
Becca:
“I don’t think so, no mess!”
(Conversation continues about ways to clean up the mess and weirder things!)
Me:
“We haven’t been using anything for 3 years; it could take a while to get pregnant.” My voice raising as I’m laughing thinking of my next sentence…. “I mean I have tried everything! Not standing up at all and going right to sleep making sure I’m on my back, (progressively getting louder) Holding my butt up in the air….” (I was going to keep going, but…
Bebe:
“Wow Summer, shhhhh… everyone can hear you in the restaurant.”
*all of us are assessing the damage as we look around the restaurant*
Me:
“Crap, I meant to say with my legs straight in the air.”







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Breakfast BUST

>> Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Ok – I would not advise a breakfast-in-bed on a very big day. My poor hubby was so nervous this morning every time he tried to take a bite he thought he was going to throw up! At least he tried for me… I was really disappointed and hurt at first because initially he said….

“You eat it honey I’m not hungry yet.”
“But I made it for you…”
“I wish you would have told me first.”

I was immediately overcome by tears. (Lucky he could not see them.) I left his breakfast on the table and carried on with my morning routine. I was going through the scenario in my head and thinking of all the times something I did for johnny just wasn’t good enough. The phrase that haunts me as a wife, “I wish you would…” I remembered how I used to clean the house EVERY day, until Johnny started complaining that I should only set aside one day and that should be Saturdays. (This is the way his mother scheduled cleaning.)

You see, I was the house keeper in my parent’s home. My mother was deeply depressed and slept all day. As you can tell, I did not have a very good example of what a wife was supposed to do… but I knew it was my job to care for Johnny. So I tried my best to adjust, but it just seemed like nothing I ever did was good enough. I let the dishes soak too long in the sink while the I waited for the scolding water to cool. I didn’t wash big enough loads of laundry and wasted time and energy. (Although, I must inform you that Johnny broke our washer twice from over filling it!) And I definitely didn’t do any of it fast enough.

I think it was hard for Johnny to adjust to another person… as is anyone. He is a perfectionist and I am a spontaneous mess (smile). The problem is that I gave up after that first year trying to please my husband. He quickly started cleaning and washing. He said he didn’t mind, but I knew he did it so that I wouldn’t do it the ‘wrong’ way. As the last few years went by he seems to resent me for letting him to do the house work. We both work full-time and I always take care of dinner and the bathroom. So I didn’t see a problem with this and let him entertain is own perfectionist issues by doing it himself.

Johnny has been laid-off for 2 months now. I remember when he would come home from work and get all irritated and in a bad mood when the bed was not made. The funny thing is that he is still in bed when I leave in the morning… so I cannot make it. When I come home I do not get mad at him because the bed is not made or the dishes are still dirty in the sink. The first few weeks of being laid-off, he did it all. The house was clean everyday and the bed was made. I guess he got burned out!

Does anyone ever have that ‘I’m never going to be good enough’ feeling in their marriage? How did you overcome it? It hurts too much for me still. I am a people-pleaser by nature and I hate that I can’t make him happy.


I am trying to show Johnny I love him through actions… his love language is ‘acts of service’. And everything I am doing is just because I love him. This morning I had to put my hurt aside and remember I did not do it for myself or my own ‘feel good’ for being a good little wife. I did it to remind him that I loved him enough to give up some of my precious sleep and take away from my make-up and hair time for his care. And even if he wasn’t hungry, I accomplished what I set out to do. Sometimes people aren’t going to understand you or receive your acts of service like you want them to… but that doesn’t mean you give up!

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Love Dare: Day 3

>> Tuesday, February 3, 2009

This is so much fun! I love surprising my husband with all these sweet little things. It is true, the saying… "It’s the little things that count”. Today my hubby emailed me and said “thank you for the note on the bathroom mirror, it was sweet.” All I did was write a list of the the things I love about him...

Tomorrow… I am going to give him Breakfast in bed… it may be a little overkill on the love dare, but He’s going to put in a very important application and I think it would give him the confidence he needs. =)

Last night after I took him out with the money I won from a game at work to see 'Taken', we went home and watched our favorite shows and I picked up the Monday special pizza we get every week. All night I was taking the dog out (he has s small bladder and we live in a condo so I can’t just let him out to run). Johnny looked a little puzzled as he asked... "What do you want?” I laughed because I was just doing it to be kind… to think of him first and not be such a baby about doing the little things. He definitely noticed already and it's only day 3. The sad thing is that I took advantage of all the little things he does and didn’t do the same for him. It kind of broke my heart that he was so shocked that I offered to do something so small. I guess I’m not as selfless as I had thought!

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Fire Proof My Marriage. . .

>> Monday, February 2, 2009

I have just started a new Book/Devotion/Challenge. Have any of you ever seen “Fire Proof”? It is an awesome movie that really puts marriage in perspective. My husband and I enjoyed it and also learned a whole lot. The movie features a couple with marital problems and the husband takes a dare from his father for 40 days to restore the marriage. It is in the form of a book, Love Dare, that gives you 40 daily challenges. I am currently on day two. It’s not hard - yet, but I have a feeling this isn’t going to be easy and I’m afraid its going to point out all of my shortcomings… but that is ok because I need to take a step back every so often and look at my marriage and the wife I am becoming. I think this is going to be a wonderful 40 day journey that will change me =) I’ll try to comment on the struggles and the blessings throughout these 40 days! I hope there is a new me at the end!

Yesterday’s Challenge: Patience/ Resolve to say nothing negative to your spouse.
Today’s Challenge: Kindness/ Do something unexpected for your spouse.

If anyone has done this, tell me what you learned and if it changed your marriage!

It would be nice to have someone to share with if anyone was planning on doing this any time soon!!! – I dare you to!

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